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Anxiety/Depression mental illness.

Discussion in 'General Off Topic Discussion' started by Andy-gers1, Aug 18, 2017.

  1. Crespo

    Crespo Registered User

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    I've been trying to get out most days for a walk, I have found as I've got older that walking through green space helps a great deal, I live very close to a park and as mentioned the quay so it has given me some joy in terms of positives.
    I've now been on the venlafaxine for a few months and it's hard to scale if it's working or not. I'm tempted to come off of it when I have my next review.

    Recently I enrolled on an open uni course as I don't have a level 3 qualification and I love history so I decided to go with arts and humanities, really excited about getting stuck in and hopefully moving on to specialise in ancient history as that's my preferred niche. A few people have commented it'll be a pointless degree assuming I get that far but tbh I'm just happy to be studying something I'm passionate about, I can now reflect on what I want to study and I'm in a much better position than when we were forced during our teenage years to pick a career because that's what you have to do!

    Admittedly now I've moved back home I have the luxury of not having to pay rent - it does of course mean if I did want to move out I'd have to choose somewhere cheap and cheerful as I'd be studying part time, good thing I don't need to bring any lady friends over.

    Hope everyone on here is doing well, all the little shits back at school this week so that'll quieten down the area I live (Poole / Bournemouth is full of tourists right now) and hopefully I'll be able to get on a bus / train and explore some more.

    Old Harry Rocks the other day were beautiful to just sit and think. Plus saw planes from the airshow pass over Old Harry Rocks.jpg
     
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    No degree or qualification is pointless mate, if its what you want to do, **** what others say, go for it.
     
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  3. Burg

    Burg ‘Absolute stick of a boy’

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    This is a much more positive sounding post than your other recent ones in this thread mate, it’s great to see. Top marks for throwing yourself into Open Uni- if you’re interested and passionate about it then that can only be a good thing!
     
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    Sounds like you've got a plan coming together Crespo. What you'll be studying will be useful in many areas, it's part of 'the classics' which better the world (not a vanity degree like sports journalism which is taken by those not clever enough to do a classics with english language), it's not a black and white as being Indiana Jones or Frazier. The shades of grey with the things we study and where we go with them is huge and to an employer that a person studied hard and got a good grade makes a difference (vanity qualifications and an average grade not so much so)
    Love the photo from the rocks that looks so beautiful and peaceful there.
     
  5. mattamomo

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    Good on you for going for a degree you enjoy.
    I was heavily pushed into an area I had little passion for, I've accepted it now but it didn't help my mental health by any means, heck it broke me pretty bad at times.

    Have to do things for yourself at times, a lesson I've recently learnt.

    Would be good to get some updates on how the open uni stuff works for you and how you like it. Kind of tempted to enrol myself once things have settled down, to study something I could enjoy.
     
  6. mattamomo

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    A strange question, but has anyone felt they have got 'dumber' for lack of a better word, since dealing with depression?
    I lost interest in just about everything as mine progressed from my teens, but wouldn't say I felt less capable as such, but more recently I am noticing some worrying changes that have been slowly building up over the last few months.
    I am stumbling over myself when talking a lot, often forgetting what the next word I want to say is and feeling it's just gone from my head. I also notice other changes, for instance I have been driving for almost 8 years now. In all those years I left my car lights on twice, yet in the last few months I've left them on about 5 times, a few years ago that would never have happened. Same thing with the stove, I have never left a stove on in my life, up until the last few months where I have done it about 4 or 5 times, even when I actively think about it to try avoid doing it again.
    I just feel like I'm slowing down, and don't know if this is something that is common? It is a little alarming to be honest.
     
  7. Flip Duckling

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    Stumbling when talking might be down to self esteem, but that just sounds like you've got shit on your mind and you're making some mistakes. Sounds normal to me.
     
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    Perhaps, always overthought things but never has it had a negative impact as such in terms of my behaviour and mistakes I would make. Just feels like I keep switching off about things that I wouldn't even really think about before, they'd just be reflexes that i'd rarely/never miss. Guess I need to just try organise my thoughts a little more and see if things improve.
     
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    Easier said than done, but try to stop worrying about things. Everything else piles on when that's the case. We're all stupid little things, nobody is flawless.
     
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    Something I have clients do is stop throughout the day and ask themselves--out loud, if it helps--"what am I doing right now/ need to do right now", along with "why am I thinking/ feeling blank" when a particular response to a trigger occurs. Some clients find that by just recalibrating themselves to be more mindful, it gets their brain to a consistently mindful place. Just a thought. Give yourself some self-grace and compassion, though, sounds like you've been through quite a bit. Don't pressure yourself to reach a certain milestone or criteria by a specific time.
     
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    How is your sleep?
    Something I have noticed over the last few years with the MS, my thyroid failing and more recently the leukaemia scare is that I’ve tended to over compensate my stress by smoking and drinking more in the evening to help myself sleep but it’s made my ‘woolly headedness’ worse not better.

    Poor sleep as a result was worse than not enough and I would splice words together forget stuff I’d just done or forget to to things or just not care about doing them at all.

    I read an awesome book called ‘Why we sleep’ (audiobook version) and downloaded the Pillow app for my iPhone and iWatch so I could see the quality of my sleep and heart rate after certain behaviour like a night reading with wine and smokes or just chilling sober with a soft drink and it’s made me much more aware of what poor sleep was doing to my head.

    Another thing I found helps with ‘woolly head’ is to go and use the hyperbaric chamber at the MS therapy centre near me. An hour of oxygen just reading or playing silly phone games and I come out clear headed and feeling like it’s blown the ‘soup’ out of my head. They let non MS people in there too, we have cancer patients footballers and half the local speedway team in there regularly with us xx
     
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    Yeah I've tried to do something similar, I try to remind myself to actively keep engaged throughout the day but still manage to space out randomly.
    Whenever I have a conversation I find myself pausing every couple of words to try think where I was going with it, and what the word is I need to say next etc, its bizzare. I end up coming out with sentences that make me sound like I'm about to have a stroke :laugh:
    I have wondered about this. They recently found my heart keeps misfiring as it were, and my heart rate has plummeted recently. I'm yet to hear back from the cardiologist about further diagnostics but the issue is often when I lay down at rest to go to sleep.
    I struggle to get a good deep sleep and a lot of the time I wake gasping for air while my heart rate has dropped to around the 40s and has severe palpitations.
    It's always been an issue but it has gotten worse and it wasnt until I blacked out twice with the palpitations that they actually found signs of something malfunctioning.
    I dont like to self diagnose but I did wonder if insufficient oxygen might be making things worse.

    Should probably bring it up with the cardiologist next time I see him just to be safe.
     
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    Sleep apnea?
     
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    Maybe, they said I had some sort of irregular heart block that stops my heart from beating properly in no real pattern. If the episodes are bad that leads to dizziness or blacking out, as well as shortness of breath if it's less severe.
    But although its more common at night, it happens throughout the day as well.
    Absolutely horrible feeling. Feels like you heart just gives up for half an hour to an hour at a time and you're there hoping it starts beating again every couple of second.
    I'm supposed to be having an appointment to talk about finding the underlying cause, probably worth mentioning the issues with my speech and behaviour to see if it's another symptom or just my anxiety.
     
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    Sounds rough, mate. Sorry. Hope it gets figured out.
     
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    Not all bad. They said its normally due to something underlying, but isnt an issue severe enough to be an immediate concern or require surgery etc. They seemed optimistic it's something that could be managed as far as I could tell.
    The worst that normally happens is the blacking out. Which obviously isnt ideal but could be worse :laugh:
    Family history is riddled with heart issues so I did sort of expect it.

    But whether it's related to the other issues I'm not sure. This heart thing has been going on for years so it seems strange I'd get new symptoms now.

    Think @Flip Duckling might be right, probably a combination of the stress and anxiety making a less than ideal situation worse.
     
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    Allow yourself to feel and process things like anxiety and stress; they're normal human experiences. Give them time, process why you're feeling them and what caused them, and then try to let them go. You'd be surprised how many people exert so much time and energy fighting to keep these "unattractive" emotions out of their lives, when doing so distracts them from enjoying the positive things, which can be harder to see. Put a boundary on the anxiety and stress to let yourself feel them for a few minutes and then try to move on if you can
     
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  18. Marty_LFC

    Marty_LFC Origi 90+6

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    Summer is setting, and have had grey skies for the past few days. Seasonal depression is well and truly on its way.

    Most of you live through rainy days for large parts of the year -- what's the best way to get away and find some sunlight (metaphorically) without physically leaving your location that you like doing on gloomy days?
     
  19. AlissonWonderland

    AlissonWonderland Slumdog Mignolet

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    I don't have an idyllic answer to this. We just have gotten used to it, it is all we have ever known. :laugh:
     
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    I actually like the dark nights drawing in. I’ve had enough of the summer now. I’m the same when the light nights start coming, I’ve had enough of the winter/autumn by then. October starts the run up to Xmas for me, and I love that time of year. I start getting the blues after Xmas, about a night or two before New Year’s Eve. I don’t like New Years Eve/Day. January and February are the most depressing months.
     
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