Do's Talk about anything going on in your life which is challenging and some advice would be helpful for. Talk about anything going on in your life which you don't need advice on but is exciting to you nonetheless. Offer your own experiences where relevant and share what worked for you. Dont's Be a prick. Take your sarcasm/condescending crap elsewhere. Use words like 'should or must'. There aren't many life experts here and we're only offering our own experiences, so try using 'xyz worked for me' or something similar. Bring up depression/mental health. I am well aware they are battles many people deal with, but I think you will get better results talking about it in the stickied thread instead. Currently me and my partner are working on paperwork to get married (neither of us are Japanese so adds a few hoops to jump through) and are working towards building our house.