Anxiety/Depression mental illness.

I keep hearing his laugh ,it's rattling around my head at the moment. He was a very funny man who could always make you laugh and he died screaming in his wife's arms kid. If there's a divine plan for us all he's seriously f*cked up on this one ,cant make any sense of any of it at the min.


Thanks Trace xx

 

Very sorry for your loss. None of us have any control over what life throws at us but we do have control over how we respond. You did the right thing by quitting drinking and you did the right thing phoning his wife sober and offering your condolences. Your posts in here the past few months have shown us all you are making better life choices and seem to be in a much better place despite what is being thrown your way. Keep up the good work and my condolences again for your loss.

 

Went through this myself years back with a very good mate just having a sudden heart attack and dying in his late 30's. I hadn't seen him for like 2 years and just days before his death he phoned me up, out of the blue and we were going to arrange a night out. Me and him often used to hit town, just us two and we'd have an absolute ball, every time. When they die it sure takes it out of you. Just keep your chin up mate, dont fall back into the old routine, youve done fabulous up until now.

 

Has anyone based in the UK got much experience with therapy or the options that are available?
I'm not exactly in a position to afford one and don't know where I'd even go about starting.
Just losing every thought at the minute didn't know it was possible to feel any more hollow or despondent.

 

You gotta start with a GP, then you'll be referred. Its not great tbh. I tried and was sent home to watch a youtube video. Things got worse obviously.

 

Can't say I'm expecting much. But figure worth a shot.
Saw they do a self-referal so have a phone session to discuss options coming up.

Any idea what to expect?

 

It's OK to go through the motions mate ,but in the end you have to lend yourself to the cure. Hopefully this post is in past tense and you've made the first move towards recovery. I was the same fella ,it took a few real sessions before I let them in. One day at a time may seem like a tired and well versed cliche we all roll out but it's said for a reason mate. After counseling, I personally used to write down everything I was feeling and underline what was different ,those subtle changes in mood I highlighted eventually brought about major change in my life the more they outweighed the bad.

Rooting for you fella

 

Struggling a bit tonight ,we've been invited to a New Years Eve party ,but the wife isn't up to it and she can barely keep her eyes open. It's just I really needed to get out tonight because I'm feeling closed in a bit and and a touch claustrophobic because earlier I think I had a little panic attack to the extent I had to stand in the garden for a bit just to breathe properly.

So it looks like we're sitting in tonight and having a quiet one and I'm not sure I'm as prepared for that as I might think.

 

How did it go, @Redpelt ? Better than you thought?

I’m attempting Dry January for about the 20th year running. I need to do this for me. I feel much better without alcohol, but the temptation gets too much. I don’t like the Christmas season coming to an end. I’ve had 10 days off work and loved being at home and seeing family. Back to the grindstone tomorrow and feeling sad the holidays are over, although I have no real reason to be.

 

It went OK girl ,we ended up going to our local parish club to bring the bells in ,we just left it till eleven and done the last hour. It was nice for her seeing her mates and that ,but a bit too much attention for her. I'm guessing she just wants to put last year behind her like I do ,there was a proper need to say good riddance to 2023 and now it's gone it's time to move on. Best of luck with your January kid ,you owe it to yourself to give it a good go and I'm rooting for you. I think there comes a point were your abstinence from something that has practically governed your life becomes a lot bigger than yourself and I think I've finally reached that point.

Wishing you and yours a wonderful 2024 and good luck with Jan kid.

 

I saw my GP this afternoon as i've been struggling lately and he said he thinks i have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD),i haven't had it for 20 years and he's put me on happy pills (Mirtazapine) I feel listless and can't be arsed to do things that really need doing like housework which is not like me.

 

I was prescribed Mirtazapine once by my GP and it brought about truly horrific nightmares ,drowsiness and random knee jerk body spasms. If you were sleeping without it fella then I'd seriously recommend you bin them. However, if you've had them before and had no side effects then you can probably tell me to f*ck off and mind my own business

 

Try Vitamin D instead

 

I had them before and was fine i was on them every winter for a decade then for some reason the SAD went away.

 

We've been battered with storms and snow and the suns gone into hibernation ,people are going to be down fella. I was just proffering my own experiences on necking those b@stards ,but if you've had them before and had no adverse side effects then you get on with it you cantankerous old f*cker

 

Less of the old you cheeky fu*cker you don't want to bring me down any further.

 

Get well soon mate.

 

As i said i've been through it before so i know what to expect i just have to wait for the tablets to kick in,i need to see some sun and i'm going to Wilkins cider farm tomorrow lunchtime that will cheer me up.