Thanks Trace ,it's strange but I don't think I've done anything extraordinary ,I'd honestly like to believe most men would do similar if the woman they love needed support. It still feels quite odd if I'm out shopping or whatever and I bump into one of the wife's mates ,because their attitudes towards me have completely changed and suddenly they're throwing their arms around me and thanking me and believe me over the years I've become well versed in being Public enemy No.1 in their eyes. I'm not sure which I prefer because I find it a bit embarrassing these spontaneous displays of affection The wife is at the start of week two of her rehabilitation ,her breathing has gradually become easier and she's doubly determined to get back to fitness ,I'm just glad I don't have to prompt her to regulate her breathing ,because if I'm honest that was the most fearful I think I've ever been in my life ,I watched her like a hawk while she slept ,literally terrified to fall asleep in case she woke up gagging for breath. That first week I don't think I've ever been that tired girl ,I was talking to the neighbour just leaning on the wheelie bin and I drifted off ,I just heard "Tony you need to get to bed ,I can come in and watch her while you get some sleep" I declined because I'm a f*cking stubborn knobhead. Thankfully I'm now getting regular sleep and enjoying a familiar sleep pattern ,hope you're on the mend kid and thanks for your kind words xx
You have stood for and with someone you love at the most frightening and worst time in their life T and that's something that a lot of people find themselves unable to do no matter how much they love that person. I am so glad that the breathing is getting better - as you say that would be absolutely terrifying to watch and the not sleeping because of fear completely natural - glad you're sleeping now too. I'm fine now - managing the new challenge - kicking arse and taking names
The self check-out queue in my local LIDL is a real deathtrap for any boozers who don't need temptation. It is regularly long and it is parked right next to the booze aisles. I wasn't going to drink this evening and I ended up leaving with a bottle of champagne. Was reduced tbf.
Love getting ratarsed but can't be doing with the hangovers anymore. The stuff I drink is called Karapackie and it's lethal stuff
Well the football season is underway and I've kinda been given back some free time 'which the wife insists on' and still I've not succumbed to throwing anything alcoholic down my neck. It feels like I'm blowing my own trumpet here ,but f*ck it today I'm bugle master and no before anyone asks not the nose bugle but that infernal musical instrument that heralds a fanfare. 210 b@stard days dry and some f*cker best be somewhere striking up a medal for me because I'm now at the point of never going back. It's just mad the more I think of it ,if someone had suggested I would not touch a drop for over 200 days I would have had assumed they were kennied off their swedes and sent them packing with instructions to go home and leave their head under a cold tap for three days.
Reading this is hitting close to home for me at the moment, as my girlfriend is exactly as you describe but denies having any sort of problem. She cannot go out just for a couple, cannot stick to the time she says she'll come home, anytime she has a drop of alcohol she has to be out until she physically can't drink anymore at 3-4am. When she's out she's constantly messaging everyone she knows to try and get more people out, she says to have a good night but I believe it's so she has a constant stream of people to enable her. Would I be overstepping in contacting her GP with my concerns, as she just isn't listening?
Yes I think you would, and I doubt you'd be able to speak to her GP anyway as they wouldn't speak to you.
Was my understanding that GPs can't discuss anything with others but if people had concerns they can raise them. I wouldn't be asking for any information back.
No more difficult than the position i'm in watching her put herself in unsafe situations, lose control of herself and self harm because of her excessive drinking affecting her thinking and behaviour. It's putting a real strain on the relationship to the point where i'm questioning if I even want to be in it anymore. This is getting too heavy for a football forum for me. I'll figure it out.
I'm going to be honest here and say when I first read this post the other day I had no idea what to say ,but one thing I can definitely be candid about is she will just see those actions as intrusive ,sadly the only person who can drag her away from this is herself and that may take some time ,just be there for her mate and try and break this routine she's running through by slowly distracting her with days out ,going for meals together. It will take a hell of a lot of patience and I speak from experience here ,but going behind her back is only going to see you lose her trust and that's something that is vital you retain,whether it's done with concern or not she will view it as a betrayal.
